In Search of Love

There is a saying, "Life is the journey in search of love" and in this journey, each person will come across 4 persons. 

The first person is oneself.

The second person is the one you love most.

The third person is the one that love you most.

The fourth person is the one that you will spend the rest of your life with.  

You will find the one you love most first, and from there know the feeling of love; Through an understanding of giving love, only then will you find the one that love you the most. Once you have gone through the process of loving someone and being loved, you'll learn the nature of love, and in the end, you will be able to understand yourself and what you need in a partner. With this, you'll be able to find one who is most suitable to you, one whom you will spend the rest of your life with.  

Unfortunately, in this less than ideal world, these 3 persons will almost certainly never be the same person. The one you love the most, will usually never be the one that loves you the most; and the one that stays with you longest is never the one you love the most or the one that loves you the most, just someone that appears at just the right time of your life.  

Which role do you think you will assume in someone else's life?  

No one will intentionally want to have a change of heart. When they love you, they will sincerely love you, but when they no longer love you, they will truly love you no more. They can never pretend they don't love you when they love you, and vice versa.  

When a person no longer loves you and wants to leave you, you should ask yourself whether you still love that person. If you no longer love her, please don't hold on just because of your pathetic pride. But if you still love them, you will wish that they will continue their life in happiness and joy, wishing that they and the one that they love be together. You would not try to hinder, because if you hinder their search for true happiness, it means that you longer love them, therefore you are no longer qualified to accuse them that they had a change of heart.  

Love is not possessive. You may love the moonlight, but it is impossible to bring down the moon for your personal use. Without possessing the moon, it is still possible to have moonlight. In other words, if you love someone, you can have another way of keeping them by your side, and that is to have the one you love as eternal memories in your life. If you love someone, you should love them as what they are. Love their good as well as their bad; love their virtues and their weaknesses. Just because you love them, do not change them according to your expectations, and leave them because they cannot become what you expect of them.  

Truly loving someone is not something which you can give reasons to. You just know that anytime, anywhere, good or bad, you will always hope that they will be by your side. True relationship is two persons that can stay together through trials and tribulations, without selfish expectations. As such, in any relationship, both parties must be willing to give and not just take. Separation is an inevitable trial; if your relationship is not strong enough, then you may as well surrender, and true love will never turn into hate.  

What about you? Which person have you found so far?  

In this wide world, amongst the sea of people, whom have you found? And whom have found you?